Finding peace when traditions change.

I hope everyone had the opportunity to really and truly enjoy and embrace the holidays.

As I was looking over several of my sessions from 2015, There was one in particular that stood out to me. Though it was a traditional family portrait, mom and dads hands immediately caught my eye.  When the children are gone, they will still have each other.  It’s a relationship that is built before the children and the tradition.

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A family of love! Mom and Dad holding hands, I had to pause for a moment to let them know I appreciate it. It’s the little things.

I thought, as parents do we really prepare our selves for change when our children grow up and leave home? Those traditions that we are use to during the holidays, will they stay the same? When our children become husbands, wives, mothers or fathers…will they leave their home town and establish their children’s home town?

Every year since my oldest daughter was five we’ve gone to my cousins house on Christmas Eve, we play games, crack jokes, my daughter builds a gingerbread house with her older cousin, we laugh and have an absolutely wonderful time.

Well in 2015, the tradition changed and I had to really come to terms that my younger cousins lives were now changing. So that meant a change for my family during this time of the year also. And though this change in tradition is sad and kind of hard to adjust to, not only for me but my oldest daughter.  I had to quickly adjust and be ok with this change because there were so many positive and exciting things that were coming from this change.

  1. go every other year instead of every year
  2. maybe start the celebration earlier
  3. let those who can’t make it know you understand and you still love them. (it’s hard for them to make the change also)

Even with the changes, the #gingerbread house was still completed by my daughter and cousin(with the help of eating the candy from the little one). Sometimes it’s not about when the house is built, it’s about the relationship that’s being built while building the gingerbread house!

If we hold on to the tradition instead of the memories that have come from the tradition…then we miss out on all the beautiful memories that are to come from the changes.

How will You Adjust to change in your Traditions?

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